Posts Tagged ‘self’

Do you have the “D” factor?

Wednesday, May 8th, 2013

Confession time:  I dragged my feet on this post and seriously thought about not writing for you this week.

There is SO much going on right now, with the end of school for my kiddos and some fabulous (but time-consuming) new developments at ClickAClass.  I was tempted to give it the old “I just don’t have time” excuse….the “I can’t make it perfect, so I won’t make it at all” excuse….the dreaded “one time doesn’t really matter” excuse.

And then I realized that NOT HAVING TIME this is one of the top three reasons that most moms give for not exercising.  Probably in the top three for anybody at all.  And it’s not good enough. 

Actions speak louder than words.  What you do matters more than what you say.  What basis do I have to coach and cajole you, saying “if it’s important, you’ll make the time” — when I’m not doing the same myself?

(Answer:  none.  No basis.)

So, I’M HERE.  This post isn’t perfect.  I can tell already that it’s a little aimless, a little stream-of-consciousness.  The grammar stinks.  I’m using improper ellipses and plenty of sentence fragments.  And already I can tell you that I won’t take time at the end to proofread it because I’m practicing the fine art of putting it out there and then letting go.

Self-discipline is easily one of my personal core values.  I grew up in a physical discipline (ballet); my parents taught me the power of discipline at home (do your homework first, then play…dinner first, then dessert….brush teeth, then go to bed…); yoga and other studies since have given me peace through self-discipline of the mind and heart (keeping the mind steady…keeping quiet unless there’s something kind and valuable to say…).

Self Discipline Cat and Dogs

 

It takes work.  It takes practice.  It’s not easy and it’s rarely perfect — but that’s life, right?  Self-discipline prepares you for all of life.  And when I look back on my life, I want to know that I did my best as many times as possible.

What about you?

What role does self-discipline play in your life?

If you could change that role, how would it be different?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dear Body….

Tuesday, October 18th, 2011

Dear Body –

It’s Fat Talk Free week, so it’s time for us to have a little chat.

First, I apologize for the way I’ve been scrutinizing you lately.  I know it can’t be easy on you when I pinch every little roll and poke every jiggly bit that never jiggled before.  You’ve worked hard, and you deserve better, so I’m here to make amends.

Thank you for keeping me upright and mobile all these years.  Even after 40-plus years of walking around, you’re still pretty spry.  You can run now (which you couldn’t in your twenties), and you’re still strong enough to kick some ass when you need to (figuratively, at least).  You’ve only been injured a couple of times, and you’ve bounced back well from each. 

Thank you for delivering my two gorgeous babies, healthy and happy.  It’s hard work to carry them for 9 months (being held hostage the whole time!), then deliver them, and still carry their ever-growing weight for years afterward.  Not half-bad, hot mama!

I’m sorry for all the sun you’ve seen in the past without the benefit of sunscreen.   I realize that many of the spots, wrinkles and sags that I’ve criticized are my own fault for not keeping you protected.  I know better now, and will keep you protected for the rest of our days together. 

I appreciate that you’ve never betrayed me with disease.  You heal quickly from common colds and minor scrapes, and you haven’t led me down the path of anything more serious.  Let’s stay on that lovely path, shall we?

I never appreciated your less-jiggly years; rather than wearing bikinis, I was too busy worrying about what other people thought and I covered you up in a one-piece (or worse yet, an oversized t-shirt!).  Sorry about that.  You were a lot hotter than I realized.  Those days are gone, but I’m using them to remind myself to appreciate you more now — and flaunt whatever’s left while you’ve still got it.

And no more fat talk. 

Love always,

Me

 

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Use it or lose it? Yeah, but for how long?

Sunday, April 10th, 2011

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, with Spring Break coming to an end:  if you’re taking a break from exercise (which could mean dance, weights, yoga, running, martial arts or any activity), exactly how long does it take to lose muscle mass?

I generally work out each weekday, and take Saturday and Sunday off.  If I’m lucky, I squeeze in a weekend run, but not usually.  During the week, it’s typically resistance and cardio combos.  On Mondays, it’s a RELIEF to work out again — I feel like I NEED that movement.  But heaven forbid I make it a long weekend!  Two days off from exercise feels like no big deal when I get back into it — but three days?  Ugh!  It feels like I’m a couch potato starting back at square one.

Is it because I’ve actually lost muscle mass or cardio endurance over an extra 24 hours off?

Or is that extra day just getting in my head a little too much?

And do you feel the same?

Turns out, it’s probably all in my head.  Experts can’t agree on a specific deadline, mainly because each body varies in terms of metabolism and muscle gain/loss.  Also, different muscle groups gain and lose mass differently; abs tend to retain strength longer than, say, the smallish muscles around the lower leg.   The general consensus is that taking off 10-14 days or more will result in some loss of strength and cardiorespiratory fitness.

So, assuming you’re not taking breaks of 2 weeks or more, it’s really all in your head.  It’s mind over matter once again.  I have a great friend who can consistently run 3 miles, then stop running for a month and then just tell himself, “I’m going to do 6 miles today.” AND HE DOES IT.  Then he acts like it was EASY.   (Yeah, that’s envy that you’re picking up in my tone.)  The thing is, it’s his self-talk – it’s what he tells himself internally that makes it happen.

What are you telling yourself?  How does it compare to what you’d say to your best friend if s/he were in the same position?   I’m keeping this in mind as I face my Monday workout after a 5-day hiatus.   Here’s my script — feel free to borrow at will:

“The fitter you are to begin with, the quicker you’ll bounce back after a break.”  (This is true, by the way, not just a platitude.)

“Be like Nike:  Just Do It.”

“You’ll feel so much better afterward.”

“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.”

“Get your priorities straight.  Do the healthy thing first, and all else will follow.”

Please share!  What’s your threshold — how many days can you take off without feeling like a slug?  And what do you tell yourself for motivation?  (Or what self-talk really keeps you down and needs to be eliminated?)

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